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The Problem

Having confidence in moments that count requires practice.

Why is practicing for life’s challenges so important?

We are biologically designed to access great stores of energy when things matter. It’s how we’ve survived as a species. Life and death circumstances require great forces of presence and action to pull through them.

We obviously don’t face life and death circumstances on a daily basis anymore, but we do face moments that matter to us in areas such as our relationships, health, finances, family and career.


Things that are important to us today, at home or at work, provoke the same energy surges that were initially designed to help us survive in the wilderness.

Now human beings haven’t changed much over the course of civilization. More than 2000 years ago the early Greek poet Archilochus observed,


“We don't rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training.”

That’s good news—because if the level of our training is high, we’ll make use of the energy surges we experience under stress to bring our best to difficult moments.

With training, we’ll be able to act in ways that line up with our highest wishes for ourselves and for others.


But it’s also bad news—because if the level of our training is low, we’ll pour that same amplified energy into the survival programming that all mammals come with by default.

That programming has 3 settings: flight, fight and freeze.

When we act as though our survival is at stake with a lot of energy, we’re often less than satisfied with the results.

So we’re still bringing the high energy it would take to escape a tiger in the jungle to our everyday challenges.

And if we haven’t trained to channel that energy toward confident action, it’s going to work against us instead of for us.


The relationship between energy and training is shown in the graphic quadrants below. As you can see in the black quadrant, a circumstance of high stress energy combined with little training gives us the worst result.

And even in low energy, non-demanding circumstances, a lack of training costs us by producing mediocre and unsatisfying outcomes.

Without Training…


OH NO! —

In important moments we are more likely to get the worst possible result if we haven’t trained for what we want.

With Training…

With the high energy that comes with stressful or challenging circumstances, however, the stakes are much higher and with training we can get great results (gold quadrant) or even in low energy circumstances we improve our outcomes when we’ve had training.


OH YES! — With training we shine in challenging situations and improve outcomes at other times.

Your Life

You’re a thoughtful person with the best intentions, important goals and big dreams. When you’re not under pressure, you can speak and think clearly about your growth and your future.

That’s the real you.

Neurological research, however, has proven the problem explained above.

It's often not the real you who takes action in stressful situations. 

It’s your primitive instincts—a part of your cerebral anatomy called the limbic system—that tends to take control of your behavior when you perceive a situation or person as threatening.

Some people call this our “lizard brain” and we are neurologically wired to let it take over in the heat of challenging circumstances.

That's not anybody's fault, it's just brain physics.

You’ve experienced these primal reactions first-hand:

  • If you’ve ever blown up at someone who you actually want to stay close to like a friend, family member or colleague.

  • If you've literally dodged someone in public or at work because you had something you didn't know how to work out with them.

  • If you've remained silent in a situation where you badly needed to speak up.

  • If you’ve ever jumped to do the bidding of a tyrant when you actually needed to make a boundary.

  • If you've hesitated to take on a job where you could have really shined and someone less qualified wound up in the role.

These are the kind of moments that most of us wish we could take back and replace with more confident behavior.

The right kind of training makes confident action in such situations not only possible, but probable.

And that’s exactly what Games for Confidence is all about.


The Solution

My goal is to help all of us rise to our best more often.

That’s why I created Games for Confidence.

Each week I'll share with you confidence-building actions that you can practice in the ordinary flow of your life so that you’ll be ready for those moments when stressful and challenging circumstances arise.

Sign up and you’ll receive a new Game each Monday that you can use to practice responding more effectively and happily in challenging circumstances.

Games for Confidence will help you to find your confidence when it counts.

Go ahead and give it a try—and let this be your first bold action on a new journey to a more confident life.

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