Thanks for your interest in the transformation story writing exercise. Below I’ve included a sample of my own writing with this exercise and following that, the template I created to guide my writing process.
HERE'S AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT USING THE TEMPLATE MIGHT LOOK LIKE
Rick was a sensitive and tender-hearted person who has always struggled with feeling loved and accepted.
Rick's struggle was based on the belief that, despite his soft heart, he was flawed and unworthy of friendship, deeply bonded relationships, and unconditional love and support from others.
The result of living with this belief was the continuous need to cover his vulnerability and insecurity with a show of competence and confidence and to be constantly performing in some way to justify or prove his value and worth.
One day Rick realized that the strategy of trying to justify his existence and his value through various types of performance was never going to create the kind of human connection he'd been longing for. If it were going to, it would have done so by now.
What Rick really wanted was to freely love, support and serve others, but Rick's old belief stopped him from realizing this because he was afraid that being open-hearted would result in being rejected, criticized or judged.
Rick decided to experiment with taking an action that would be consistent with a new belief. The new belief was that being more open-hearted with others was safe and would not lead to devastating degrees of criticism or judgement. Now Rick did not yet feel the new belief to be true. Yet as part of the experiment Rick agreed to act as though the new belief were true in order to find out if it could be true.
And so Rick made a promise to himself, that for one whole week he would practice communicating his vulnerability ahead of his competency and knowledge with others at least once per a day.
After that first week Rick became so excited about the small progress that he was beginning to make, expressing his vulnerabilities rather than his certainties, that Rick committed to practicing being more vulnerable in his communications at least once a day for a whole month.
After that month, Rick increased the frequency of his practice to 3 times per day on an ongoing basis.
The momentum of that habit carried Rick through the entire year, and at the end of the year Rick realized that he had become confident with expressing himself more openly and vulnerably and now believed that he could do so in a way that benefitted both himself and others.
HERE IS THE TEMPLATE YOU CAN USE TO CRAFT YOUR OWN TRANSFORMATIONAL TALE
(Your name) was a (descriptive character adjective) person who has always struggled with (name a challenge, struggle, or obstacle you face).
(Your name)'s struggle was based on the belief that (name the belief you have that keeps you from breaking through in relationship to the struggle.)
The result of living with this belief was (describe the persisting circumstances or conditions that are painful for you.)
One day (Your name) realized that the strategy of (method of trying to cope with the challenge or pain) was never going to (result that you've been hoping for). If it were going to, it would have done so by now.
What (your name) really wanted was (describe the change that is your heart's desire), but (your name)'s old belief stopped him/her from realizing this because (describe how the belief blocks the realization of the wish.)
(Your name) decided to experiment with taking an action that would be consistent with a new belief. The new belief was (name the new belief.) Now (your name) did not yet feel the new belief to be true. Yet as part of the experiment (your name) agreed to act as though the new belief were true in order to find out if it could be true.
And so (your name) made a promise to himself/herself, that for one whole week (your name) would practice (ability or skill you need) at least (name frequency of practice) a day.
After that first week (your name) became so excited about the small progress that he/she was beginning to make, (describe a specific way that your life started to change), that (your name) committed to practicing (ability or skill you need) at least (name period of frequency) for a whole month.
After that month, (your name) increased the frequency of his/her practice to (name new frequency of practice) on an ongoing basis.
The momentum of that habit carried (your name) through the entire year, and at the end of the year (your name) realized he/she had become confident in/with (name your wanted skill, condition or behavior) and now believed (reiterate the new belief).
So there you have it.
A big wonderful Game for this week should you choose to accept it, as they used to say in Mission Impossible, though this is entirely possible.